In pre-marital system we have 6 stages that we must follow before going into marriage proper. Before going into that I will like to make clear what marriage really entails, because a lot of us don’t really know what marriage is. For the singles we have to really know what we are going into, because if you don’t know where you’re going everywhere looks like the place.
What are things to know about marriage?
1. Marriage is the foundation for the family. When there is no marriage, there cannot be family.
2. Marriage involves two people.
3. Marriage is a divine institution. Allow me to quote a scripture here to make it clear to you that marriage is a divine institution. Genesis 2: 18 Gen 2:18 And Jehovah God said, It is not good that the man should be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.
Gen 2:19 And out of the ground Jehovah God formed every animal of the field and every fowl of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name.
Gen 2:20 And Adam gave names to all the cattle, and to the birds of the air, and to every animal of the field. But there was not found a suitable helper for Adam.
Gen 2:21 And Jehovah God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept. And He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh underneath.
Gen 2:22 And Jehovah God made the rib (which He had taken from the man) into a woman. And He brought her to the man.
4. Marriage is the first institution on earth.
5. The institution of marriage is close to the he art of God.
6. God was practically involved in the institution of first marriage.
Now that we know what marriage really entails, we need to know the pre- marital stages of marriage.
These stages have to be followed strictly to build a strong and good marriage.
Propose: Adventure into marriage starts with proposals. It requires you walking to a lady and telling her that you want to marry her. Don’t go to a lady and tell her that God told you that you’re my wife. God doesn’t tell people such things. To support this point let me quote Porverb 18: 222 Pro 18:22 Whoever findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor from the LORD. Can you see the word FINDETH.
Preparations: putting the fact finding to build the future you are anticipating. Preparation should come after proposal because the fact finding should be from your partner. You must make sure you agree physically spiritually and mentally.
Proceed: you are not permitted to until you are satisfied with available fact you’ve gathered. This time you can go ahead and inform you friends and family. The most important thing is , you must be sure you agree before proceeding .
Promoting: this is preparing and promoting the plan for the marriage.
Protest: letting your partner know some unpleasant thing that you don’t like. What ever you don’t like, please don’t overlook. Always let your partner know what you don’t like.
Protect: you protect yourself from defilement. Heb 13:4 Let marriage be had in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. ( for those that asked me if its good to have sex before marriage , I think you can answer the question yourself. Judge if it is good or not.) You also protect yourself from hearing negative things about your partner.
I think with the knowledge of these six p’s of pre- marital success system we should be able to build a successful and productive relationship.
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